When you say the words “I love you” to someone, what do you mean? What does it mean to you?

For me, it’s the declaration that you are putting that person’s needs and happiness before your own. It’s so that their happiness becomes your joy. You trust them so much that they alone have that coveted place that oddly transcends selfish human nature.

I am interested because it’s so different for everyone. Thoughts?

7 thoughts on “Love.

  1. I used to use “I love you” as a way to make myself feel better about being in a relationship. I figured if I was saying “I love you” it meant it was OK for me to lose so much of myself to another person and give them so much (even though it usually wasn’t reciprocated) since that’s what I thought love was.

    Now, when I say “I love you” it means that I deeply respect, trust, and need someone, that I care deeply for them, and yes, I’m willing to put their needs before my own.

    It’s odd how the meaning can change over time as you grow emotionally. Well, odd and cool. It can be a bit disconcerting to look back on what I used to think it was though… ick.

  2. Hmm.
    When I tell Craig I love him, I’m telling him that he completes my life in a way no one else could, that I can’t imagine sharing my life with anyone else. It’s telling him that I appreciate him and who he is and that I wouldn’t change a hair on his head. 🙂

  3. It’s always been so hard for me to put words to the feeling I have when I tell Jerry I love him.. you guys are amazing at doing so! For me, I’m telling him that he makes life worth living. He gives me more reason to go to work everyday and be successful for US and not just me. He gives me reason to wear my seat belt and not bring my life back to drugs. To LIVE. I’m also giving him everything I am and trusting that he will love me back even when our relationship isn’t the most perfect. There is so much feeling that goes into those three words that I could never express it fully with my dull vocabulary… Thank you so much for the insight 🙂

  4. I say it to everyone as a joke. I said it once to my friend when I was drunk and hysterical because he said it first. I’ve only ever fallen in love with two guys and I only had the guts to say it to one of them, which meant I spent weeks working on it so, naturally, it came out wrong.

    So yes, I guess I always mean it, because even when I’m saying it jokingly it’s true.

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